Tomorrow will be better.

Tomorrow will be better.

The saying of a life time.  Tomo will be better. 

Being on this earth for 40 + years.  I have heard and said this more times then can be counted.  It is a natural thing to say when things are not going very well that day.

A few days ago,  while trying to encourage a personal friend.  She said.

“No tomo will not be better.  It will be just like today.”

I wasn’t sure how to reply to this statement.  There was no proof that tomorrow would be better.  No words could change her disappointment in life.  No matter how much I wanted to make it so.    We have all been on that side of life.  Everything looks so dark and hopeless.  And even though our friends, and family mean well.  This statement didn’t make anything better.

After much thought on this statement, and my friends reaction to it.  I see that her statement is very true.  Tomorrow will not be any different then today.  Unless we do something today to make tomorrow better.

This came to light a little later in our conversation when I was trying to offer ways it could be better tomo.  Her reply, “If things were different, that would work.”    The words of my friend was a lightbulb moment for me.  That I wish she would have seen as well.

We get use to living life the way we are expected to  live it.  From what I’ve seen this always brings a person to feelings of hopelessness, trying to live the life we should.  The whole point is, if things being different will make tomo better.  Then it is time to make things different today.  So our tomo’s can be better. Life is all about making chooses.  Either choose to live a life that is disappointing to you and your little family.  Or choose to make changes for a better tomo for you and your little family.  It can be that easy if you let it be.

Making changes in our lives is hard to do. The what if’s, takes control of our decisions.

” What if they are right, and I fail? ,  What if I change this one little thing and I lose my friends?  What if……”

These words will stop you in tracks towards making things better.  So answer the questions.  “What if they are right, and you fail?”  Will failure end your life right then?  No, use the experience to learn how to do it better next time.  “What if I change this one little thing and lose my friends?”  The truth is, your real friends will not leave you because you are making changes to better your life.  They will support you no matter what.    Take time to answer the what if questions.  Just remember to answer it both ways.  “What if I fail?”    “What if you succeed?”   “What if I lose friends?”  “What if you make more real  friends by being your true self?”

Life is full of chooses, “What will I make for dinner tonight?”  “What outfit will I ware to the job interview?”  So make the chooses that will better your life too.  Not just the little ones.  Take control of your tomorrow.  Make it better then today.

Start today!  Don’t let the little word “if”, stop you from living your life the way you want to live it.  Don’t let fear pf failure keep you from trying.  Don’t let the negative remarks of others keep you from proving them wrong.

Wishing everyone a better tomorrow then today.

Tina R. Ward.












The Power to Heal.

The Power to Heal.

A common connection threw music.

The driving drumming,  the leading guitar, the pushing  base, the inspiring words, that came straight from our heats.  The reflections of our souls, put in motion.

All music is a reflection of our souls.  Country, Rap, Oldies, Jazz, Heavy Metal, ext.  They all tell the story of our lives.  They can pull the heart ache out so easily.  They lift our spirits when we are running low.  They bring cherished  memories of  a better time.  Reminding us of our youthful desires, the people that helped us became who we are today.  They explain the feeling that can not be said out loud.

Music touches the souls of everyone in one way are another.  Have you ever just stopped, and really thought about how important music is to you?  No matter what kind of music you prefer.  How would you fill if one day all the music just stopped?  Would you be able to keep moving forward with a bounce in your steps? For me, the day the music stops is the day my heart will stop.

Growing up, I was blessed with a musical family.  My Father, and my brother played in a country band.  All the members of the band, and there families, were my family.  Every event threw the years always involved music.  Even though they were a small band, that never made it to the radios.  They were popular in our area.  And always played at the town fairs, and such.  I would just set close by and lesson.  The music always moved my soul, and I never set for long.  I would be up dancing around.  Couldn’t help myself.  It was like I was being pulled by an unseen force.  That has never changed.

Even though the main people in this band did not play on the radio’s.  There were many  of people that played with them threw the years that did make it big.  When ever they were in town, they would always came back and play with them.  I always thought this was great.  Being able to be around someone who made it big.  But would still show they honored where they got started.  Great memories.  I’m grateful for the blessing of being around music since before I could walk.

Music heals the soul, when you allow it to.  With a good upbeat song you can wash away the darkest of moods.  With the right song you can remember a life long forgotten.  With the right song the heart ache of a lost love can bring a wave of peace.

This year we have lost a few of the greats in music.  We all mourn there passing.  We feel connected to them, because they have pulled us threw our lives.  Reminding us we are not alone in our struggles, our blessing, with the demands of day to day life.  Take encouragement in the fact.  Their souls may not be here with us anymore.  But they left us so much to remember them by.  They have left there emotions for us.  It is only a Google search away.   We honor them every time we let there music heal our souls.

In the words of Prince:

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called Life.


Belly Dancing

Belly Dancing

Belly Dancing – We have all heard of it.  How many really know much about it.

The origin of belly dancing has different backgrounds.  There is an article included with a short history.

Today belling dancing is known best for physical exercise for the body.  After watching a few videos I can see why.  It teaches slow controlled movements of separate parts of the body.  Witch is the best way to get the body in great shape.  Plus the benefits of being able to control your body in that way, would make you feel wonderful about yourself, while you are getting into shape.  Plus having fun.  What could be better for the soul.


Oriental Dance or “Raks Sharki” in its most classical form, translated from Arabic means “The Dance Of The Orient.” The term “Belly Dance” was first used by the French when they saw the undulations and the body isolations, “The Dance of The Stomach.” Also, it was called “Danse Du Venture,” or the dance of adventure. In the ancient Middle East/Mediterranean, the belly dance was first performed as sort of a birthing aid. Basically, the sisters of the women giving birth would aid the new mother by undulating and rolling their bodies in natural, curvy snake-like movements to help with the delivery of the baby. It is a dance as second nature as breathing, and it got its start not as entertainment, but for childbirth.


Slowly Middle Eastern dance became more of an entertainment related art form. This dance was first brought to America just over 100 years ago at the Chicago Worlds Fair in 1893 by “Little Egypt.” “Little Egypt” was the first, and more people than ever are collecting memorabilia of her famous belly dance.

Middle Eastern dance form is as esthetic and holistic as it is misunderstood. The Belly Dance is a spiritual connection between mind and body. Belly Dancing is as majestic and regal as classical Ballet, but differs because it offers its practioners a total experience, a sense of well-being, joy, freedom and most importantly, is a celebration of the feminine soul and inner spirit through movement. The Goddess within emerges every time I dance. I am entranced by my craft, and become totally engulfed with the art and can slip into a “dance trance.” When I enter my dance space, my presence and energy is immediately communicated to my audience. I “speak” to my audience with strong Egyptian technique, intricate and precise movements mirrored with a playful personality. The “glue” that holds it all together is a vivacious theatrical presence and professionalism. As I explain the history I use my own professional experiences throughout, so you can get a complete and total visual image.

Something as beautiful as the Belly Dance cannot be exploited, unless it is taken out of its intended context and it is placed into the wrong hands. Also, with some closed-minded audiences, sometimes the belly dance itself can be misunderstood. It can be viewed as sleazy and “something a nice girl does not do.” That depends on who the belly dancer is. If the individual is trashy, than so will her performance of this art, and it will be cheapened. Also, there is nothing funnier than when a dancer hides lack of true talent by constantly using ridiculous props in her shows, and never really dances. Belly Dancing is not at all a strip tease. It is just so ignorant of people who refer to stripping as “EXOTIC” dancing. Exotic means “from a far away land,” go-go dancing should be referred to as “EROTIC.” The belly dancer does not remove her costume, the costume is very much a part of the dance routine. A belly dancer is proud of her costume, and it is crucial to wear the most elaborate and elegant dress to convey class and professionalism. I wear Madame Abla’s designs, the best and most beautiful costumes in the Arabic world. When I enter the stage the high-class Arabic families that I perform for know “it’s an ABLA!” I am known for not only being a true artist, but I am also well known for wearing the best. To me every performance is a night at the OSCARS, or THE GRAMMYS, or even The MTV VIDEO MUSIC AWARDS!! I perform every show with intense artistic detail and I try to do an awesome concert no matter how big or small my audience is.


Middle Eastern dance is a reflection of the performer, and it can be misrepresented and in turn kills the value for other performers who are pure artists, PERIOD! Belly Dance is a dance of the heritage of Middle Eastern culture that transcends a wide variety of nations reflecting a common art with different variations and styles. Since this is a dance of another culture, a lot of Americans fail to realize this. It is important to understand the customs, religions, ideologies, and the Arabic mind set of the people. It is also important to understand the language, in order to properly interpret the feelings, emotions and meanings of the songs. It is too easy to say you are a teacher when the instructor herself does not understand 100% the cultural dance that they are improperly conveying to impressionable students. This dance is different than tap, modern or jazz dancing. One can learn steps, but, may not be able to perform it, for this art emanates from the heart and soul. It can appear mechanical and choppy if not felt on a personal, internal level. For example, Hawaiian dancing, The Hula, is more of a cultural interpretation of that region and the movements all mean something.

Most Americans believe that all belly dancers are female. Traditional belly dance is performed by both sexes. In the Middle East, men perform more of the folkloric dances, like the men’s stick dance. Some male performers include: Yousry Shariff (NY and Egypt), Mahmoud Reda (Egypt), Ibrahim “Bobby” Farrah (NYC), etc.

In search of Happiness…

In search of Happiness…

Here is wonderfully written piece on finding our Happiness. Witch has helped me see where my path has gotten of course. We ware so many different mask in our lives. It is easy to lose yourself in them.

Close to You

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You would be happy forever if you don’t know the unhappiness. The birds are happy, children are happy because they don’t know the unhappiness.  But, when one experiences the unhappiness ever, he starts to run after happiness. We do that because happiness is our natural phenomenon and unhappiness is unnatural to us. That’s why; when stress or whatever cases of unhappiness comes into our judgment, we immediately try to loose that and go back to our original nature that is “happy you” or “happy me”. So, we don’t need to run after happiness. It belongs to us all. Our originality is our happiness.

Merely, the sad thing is most of us are not expressing our genuine nature. We love to shield our originality by creating  several types of mask. We are getting  bound by the social formalities, the pressure of “should or shouldn’t” and…

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What is Energy?

A post from a wonderful writer, that I feel should be shared. Every word is very true. This is also something I try to practice in my life. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that we are the key. Thank you SpiritualJourney17.


As you sit there reading this post, energy flows around you and through you from radio waves, television, cell phones and electricity. All energy holds a frequency of vibration, even physical matter, and this frequency will either move slow or fast, depending on the density of the physical matter.

Therefore, all matter – the chair you are sitting on – and of course the human body itself – is made up of energy.

Nikola Tesla observed that the universe is a sea of energy. Energy comprises 98% of the Universe and matter only 2%.

As Oprah stated “One of the truths I most deeply believe is that everything in life – eeevvveerrryy thing – is energy.”

Our thoughts are energy. We are responsible for everything we do, based on our intent – so it is important to become consciously aware of what we think before we act.

On average, the…

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